Like ultimately, what do I want for myself?
Most probably have nothing much to do with you so, blame me not if you read on
Stephen Covey’s in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People mention that one of the habit is to "Begin with the end in mind". So instead of the usual looking at where I am and see what I can do to go anywhere, let me see how I want people to say about me during my funeral, and the break it down from there, asking smaller and smaller question.
After much thinking, one thing that I want to 'hear' most during my funeral would be
"He's such an inspiration"